Have you learnt how to Love?
When we finish our race on earth and cross over, the souls who are prideful probably have a high chance to go to hell while those who made it through the narrow way will probably meet Jesus personally.
There, Jesus wiill only ask one question:
HAVE YOU LEARNT HOW TO LOVE?
Hence, our TRANSFORMATION journey key is LEARNING HOW TO LOVE?
Of all the teachings that I have searched around, I found a chinese pastor in Philipines has really teached more about love in more in depth than others. I have also attached details about him and his family together with the website.
There, Jesus wiill only ask one question:
HAVE YOU LEARNT HOW TO LOVE?
Hence, our TRANSFORMATION journey key is LEARNING HOW TO LOVE?
Of all the teachings that I have searched around, I found a chinese pastor in Philipines has really teached more about love in more in depth than others. I have also attached details about him and his family together with the website.
We shall discuss in more detail about
- (1) Definition of Love
- (2) Love in 10 Commandments
- (3) Video Sermons on Love
- (4) Text for the Sermons above
- (5) Information about the speaker from the Videos
(1) Definition of Love
1 Corinthians 13 New International Version
13 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
13 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
(2) Love in 10 Commandments
Exodus 20 or Deuteronomy 5
1 Thou shalt have no other gods before me
2 Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image
3 Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain
4 Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy
5 Honour thy father and thy mother
6 Thou shalt not kill
7 Thou shalt not commit adultery
8 Thou shalt not steal
9 Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour
10 Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house / Thou shalt not desire thy neighbour's house
Commandments 1-4 are about Loving God
Commandments 5-10 are about Loving Others
1 Thou shalt have no other gods before me
2 Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image
3 Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain
4 Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy
5 Honour thy father and thy mother
6 Thou shalt not kill
7 Thou shalt not commit adultery
8 Thou shalt not steal
9 Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour
10 Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house / Thou shalt not desire thy neighbour's house
Commandments 1-4 are about Loving God
Commandments 5-10 are about Loving Others
(3) Video Sermons on Love
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What Love looks like?
Greetings in the wonderful name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ today I want to share with you First Corinthians chapter 13.
why you must understand love is so foundational it is basic it is the solution to many of our problems what do I mean First Corinthians 13 was written in the context of the church at Corinth it is the most problematic Church revealed in the New Testament as of the time of writing there was division there was gross immorality they were suing each other they were full of carnality Christians are not walking in the spirit and Paul is saying you are like ordinary man you don't act like a follower of Jesus therefore First Corinthians 13 was written to help resolve all of this problem because one of the most subtle problem is the problem of pride it has to do with spiritual giftedness they were boasting about their spiritual giftedness so love is the foundational truth that we need to understand to resolve many of our relationship problems let us look at First Corinthians 13. let's begin from verse 1 to 3 first if I speak with the tongues of men and of angels but do not have love I become a noise of men in the New Testament this is often used to describe real languages you see this in the book of Acts what about tongues of angels what are this we don't really know whatever it is Paul is saying just because you have the gift of tongues but Paul says if you don't have love it's nothing if I have the gift of Prophecy and know all Mysteries and all knowledge and if I have all Faith so as to remove mountains but do not have love I am nothing what is Paul saying if you have spiritual gifts the gift of eloquence you can prophesy you can speak for the word of God you have all knowledge my goodness you can answer difficult questions you are good in apologetics the Bible tells us if you have all Faith what kind of faith Faith to remove mountains imagine those kind of giftedness but Paul is saying without love it's nothing if I give all my possessions to feed the poor if I Surrender my body to be burned but do not have love it profits me nothing the Bible says without love it's nothing so a lab is so vital it is the measurement of our maturity and our spirituality how are you doing in the area of love my prayer is you and I will keep growing you know why the Christian life is like riding a bicycle why don't you stop moving forward you will fall so my prayer is as we listen to the series on love your love will grow First Corinthians 13 for you and for me is like a thermometer it is a measurement of our spiritual maturity if you want to know whether you are growing spiritually or not you measure it in terms of love how are you loving people First Corinthians 13 on the basis of this chapter you know what hit me I realize First Corinthians 13 when it is describing love it's all about action words those are 15 verbs love is patient love is kind those are verbs not adjectives second First Corinthians 13 tells us love is action it's a choice it's not a Feeling it's More Than A Feeling topic today is true love endures what do we mean by true love endures real love is tested over time if you love somebody that love will continue if you hear people saying I don't love you anymore enough is enough I give up that is not true love because true love endures First Corinthians 13 the preeminence of love the most important thing is love then it talks about the practice of love what is love all about let me read for you what through love is love is patient love is kind is not jealous love does not brag is not arrogant love does not act and becomingly it does not seek its own is not provoked does not take into account a wrong suffered love does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth love bears all things believes all things hopes all things endures all things love never fails 15 verbs in five verses it's all about action words this chapter is so crucial because it will change your life I'm reminded of a ccafer who gave me permission to share about his life before coming to Christ his marriage was a mess he divorced three times he never understood what love is you're a temporary problem selfishness and then he said Peter when I came to know Jesus I decided for one year I will just read and meditate on First Corinthians 13. and by reading and meditating on First Corinthians 13 for one year if you see this man his life was completely changed even his children will attest he was changed his wife his new wife a test to the reality of his transformation he went back to his previous wives and he asked for forgiveness he told them the problem was me I'm selfish love is crucial because it is not only the greatest commandment it brings God the greatest honor love transforms your life it will bring glory to God love will bless you especially in your relationship another observation about First Corinthians 13 not only do you have verbs they are in the present tense meaning you keep on doing it love is patient what does it mean you are not just patient for one day you are not just patient for two days grammatically it means you must always be patient daily minute by minute so if you want to know what true love is based on these 15 verbs you can outline it as follows What Love Is love is patient love is kind what love is not it tells you what it is not it is not jealous it does not brag eight qualities of what love is not and then it ends with what love will always do love bears all things believes all things hopes all things endures all things love will never fail
Love is Patient, Love is Kind.........
1 Corinthians 13 tells us What Love IsLove is patient. Love is kind.
What do you mean by patient?
From the Greek word makrothymia—notice the word makrothymia means long-suffering. And it means not just one day, two days—it means you are always patient until it becomes a habit. Remember, true love is a choice. True love is a commitment. True love is action words. It is being patient.
I'm reminded of the story of one of our pastors. He was supposed to fly to Bacolod. He asked his wife, "What is the schedule of our flight?" So the wife told him the time. On their way to the airport, he repeated the question to the wife: "What time is the departure of the flight?" When the wife checked again the plane ticket, the wife discovered—to her horror—she gave the wrong time. The time she gave was the arrival time, but the departure time was earlier.
Guess what happened? No matter how fast they would drive, it was too late. When he arrived, they told him, "Sir, sorry..." Now, this man had every right to be angry, to scold the wife. But you know what? Love is patient. Long-suffering.
What did he do? He gave up the right to give a lecture. He simply asked the counter, "Is there another flight to the same vicinity area?" And praise God, there was another flight—but they had to pay extra because the destination was different. So he called the people who were going to fetch them and said, "Can you fetch me at this particular airport? No longer in the original airport."
You see, love is patient. And the truth is, this word is used mostly to describe relationships with other human beings—with people. This word is not used to describe your reaction to circumstances or things—no, it's about people.
Next, the Bible says love is kind. What does it mean? The word kind comes from the Greek word meaning you are generous in wanting to bless others. You are thinking of how to bless the other person. Kindness—let me give an example. When you want to show kindness, you put yourself in the shoes of other people.
The truth is, there are some people who will irritate us. There will be some people who will annoy us. I'm reminded of this story of a passenger in an airplane where the people sitting in front of them had three kids. The father had a hard time controlling the three children—they were crying, they were fussing, and everybody was irritated. But the man behind decided to show kindness.
What did he do? He was tempted to say, "Can you not control your children?" But he didn’t say that. Instead, he said, "Having a tough day? Can I help you?" The father said, "Their mother just died, and we are on our way..."
You see, the moment he understood—the three children were crying because their mother just died—it completely changed his perspective. Instead of becoming harsh, he began to put himself in their shoes. And that's how you show kindness.
You know, when Jesus tells us, "Do unto others as you want them to do unto you," many times, we need to be kind. We need to think of others, put ourselves in their shoes.
The Bible tells us: Love is patient. Love is kind.
Can I tell you why? Because that's how God is. In Romans 2:4, it says:
"Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads you to repentance?"
The Bible describes God as follows: God is patient, and God is kind. And I look at myself and realize—I am the recipient of God's patience and God's love. And God is saying, "True love is for you and for me to be patient, to be kind to others."
The truth is this: Many people have been brought into the kingdom of God through the kindness, patience, and love of God's people—not because of theological arguments, not because of apologetics. And the truth is, there are more people who have turned away from Christ, from the church, because of the hardness, the poor examples of many Christians.
It is so crucial that we learn to be patient, we learn to be kind—because that's how we honor the Lord.
What love is not?
What Love Is Not: Eight Characteristics
Love is not jealous.
Love does not brag.
Love is not arrogant.
What does it mean "love is not jealous"? Jealousy, when applied to us, means you want something that others have and you don’t have it. It can also mean you feel bad because others have it and you don’t. Now, there’s a kind of jealousy that is good—it’s called godly jealousy. That kind of jealousy is for our protection—the jealousy of a husband or wife to safeguard the purity of each other. But the jealousy being discussed here has to do with selfishness.
For example, in Genesis 37:11, 19, the Bible tells us about Joseph—his brothers were jealous of him. They said to one another:
"Here comes this dreamer! Come now, let us kill him and throw him into one of the pits. We will say a wild beast devoured him. Then let us see what will become of his dreams."
In other words, jealousy and envy can lead to devastating consequences. Friends, jealousy is all about self-centeredness. This is one of those serious sins that people don’t realize.
Love is not jealous. You are happy for others. The Bible says:
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep." (Romans 12:15)
Now, let me ask you—which one is harder? In the Philippine context, it’s harder for us to rejoice with those who rejoice. We don’t mind weeping with those who weep, but the Bible challenges us: Are you able to be happy when others are blessed?
Love does not brag. Love is not arrogant.
I’ll explain these two together.
What do I mean? You’ll notice many politicians—if they build a bridge or a parking shade, they put their name on it. But it’s the people’s money! Why do they do that? Because they want recognition.
But true followers of Jesus do not seek recognition. You do good things silently, without drawing attention. You don’t mind.
What’s the antidote?
Remember that everything we have, everything we’ve accomplished, is by the grace of God. So, we give glory to Him. Our accomplishments are because of Him.
Love does not act unbecomingly.
Love does not seek its own.
Love is not provoked.
Love does not take into account a wrong suffered.
What does this mean?
Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth.
What does this mean?
Instead, let’s rejoice in the truth.
This passage emphasizes that true love is selfless, patient, forgiving, and focused on others’ good—not our own pride or grievances. May we grow in this kind of love.
Don't give up on Love
What Will Love Always Do?The Bible tells us:
"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."
So far, how are you rating yourself?
Now, let’s look at what love will always do:
Final Challenge:
Let’s honor God by loving His way.
This passage reminds us that true love is active, persevering, and God-dependent. May we grow in it daily.
The Secret to A Love that Last.
What does it mean that "True Love Never Fails"?
When the Bible says "Love never fails," it means:
1. Love Never Fails Because God’s Purpose Prevails
May you experience—and overflow with--God’s unstoppable, unfailing love.
This passage reminds us that love is God’s masterpiece, transforming trials into treasures and preparing us for eternity. Let’s choose to love His way—today and always.
Love God even when we Fails
Greetings in the wonderful name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ today I want to share with you First Corinthians chapter 13.
why you must understand love is so foundational it is basic it is the solution to many of our problems what do I mean First Corinthians 13 was written in the context of the church at Corinth it is the most problematic Church revealed in the New Testament as of the time of writing there was division there was gross immorality they were suing each other they were full of carnality Christians are not walking in the spirit and Paul is saying you are like ordinary man you don't act like a follower of Jesus therefore First Corinthians 13 was written to help resolve all of this problem because one of the most subtle problem is the problem of pride it has to do with spiritual giftedness they were boasting about their spiritual giftedness so love is the foundational truth that we need to understand to resolve many of our relationship problems let us look at First Corinthians 13. let's begin from verse 1 to 3 first if I speak with the tongues of men and of angels but do not have love I become a noise of men in the New Testament this is often used to describe real languages you see this in the book of Acts what about tongues of angels what are this we don't really know whatever it is Paul is saying just because you have the gift of tongues but Paul says if you don't have love it's nothing if I have the gift of Prophecy and know all Mysteries and all knowledge and if I have all Faith so as to remove mountains but do not have love I am nothing what is Paul saying if you have spiritual gifts the gift of eloquence you can prophesy you can speak for the word of God you have all knowledge my goodness you can answer difficult questions you are good in apologetics the Bible tells us if you have all Faith what kind of faith Faith to remove mountains imagine those kind of giftedness but Paul is saying without love it's nothing if I give all my possessions to feed the poor if I Surrender my body to be burned but do not have love it profits me nothing the Bible says without love it's nothing so a lab is so vital it is the measurement of our maturity and our spirituality how are you doing in the area of love my prayer is you and I will keep growing you know why the Christian life is like riding a bicycle why don't you stop moving forward you will fall so my prayer is as we listen to the series on love your love will grow First Corinthians 13 for you and for me is like a thermometer it is a measurement of our spiritual maturity if you want to know whether you are growing spiritually or not you measure it in terms of love how are you loving people First Corinthians 13 on the basis of this chapter you know what hit me I realize First Corinthians 13 when it is describing love it's all about action words those are 15 verbs love is patient love is kind those are verbs not adjectives second First Corinthians 13 tells us love is action it's a choice it's not a Feeling it's More Than A Feeling topic today is true love endures what do we mean by true love endures real love is tested over time if you love somebody that love will continue if you hear people saying I don't love you anymore enough is enough I give up that is not true love because true love endures First Corinthians 13 the preeminence of love the most important thing is love then it talks about the practice of love what is love all about let me read for you what through love is love is patient love is kind is not jealous love does not brag is not arrogant love does not act and becomingly it does not seek its own is not provoked does not take into account a wrong suffered love does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth love bears all things believes all things hopes all things endures all things love never fails 15 verbs in five verses it's all about action words this chapter is so crucial because it will change your life I'm reminded of a ccafer who gave me permission to share about his life before coming to Christ his marriage was a mess he divorced three times he never understood what love is you're a temporary problem selfishness and then he said Peter when I came to know Jesus I decided for one year I will just read and meditate on First Corinthians 13. and by reading and meditating on First Corinthians 13 for one year if you see this man his life was completely changed even his children will attest he was changed his wife his new wife a test to the reality of his transformation he went back to his previous wives and he asked for forgiveness he told them the problem was me I'm selfish love is crucial because it is not only the greatest commandment it brings God the greatest honor love transforms your life it will bring glory to God love will bless you especially in your relationship another observation about First Corinthians 13 not only do you have verbs they are in the present tense meaning you keep on doing it love is patient what does it mean you are not just patient for one day you are not just patient for two days grammatically it means you must always be patient daily minute by minute so if you want to know what true love is based on these 15 verbs you can outline it as follows What Love Is love is patient love is kind what love is not it tells you what it is not it is not jealous it does not brag eight qualities of what love is not and then it ends with what love will always do love bears all things believes all things hopes all things endures all things love will never fail
Love is Patient, Love is Kind.........
1 Corinthians 13 tells us What Love IsLove is patient. Love is kind.
What do you mean by patient?
From the Greek word makrothymia—notice the word makrothymia means long-suffering. And it means not just one day, two days—it means you are always patient until it becomes a habit. Remember, true love is a choice. True love is a commitment. True love is action words. It is being patient.
I'm reminded of the story of one of our pastors. He was supposed to fly to Bacolod. He asked his wife, "What is the schedule of our flight?" So the wife told him the time. On their way to the airport, he repeated the question to the wife: "What time is the departure of the flight?" When the wife checked again the plane ticket, the wife discovered—to her horror—she gave the wrong time. The time she gave was the arrival time, but the departure time was earlier.
Guess what happened? No matter how fast they would drive, it was too late. When he arrived, they told him, "Sir, sorry..." Now, this man had every right to be angry, to scold the wife. But you know what? Love is patient. Long-suffering.
What did he do? He gave up the right to give a lecture. He simply asked the counter, "Is there another flight to the same vicinity area?" And praise God, there was another flight—but they had to pay extra because the destination was different. So he called the people who were going to fetch them and said, "Can you fetch me at this particular airport? No longer in the original airport."
You see, love is patient. And the truth is, this word is used mostly to describe relationships with other human beings—with people. This word is not used to describe your reaction to circumstances or things—no, it's about people.
Next, the Bible says love is kind. What does it mean? The word kind comes from the Greek word meaning you are generous in wanting to bless others. You are thinking of how to bless the other person. Kindness—let me give an example. When you want to show kindness, you put yourself in the shoes of other people.
The truth is, there are some people who will irritate us. There will be some people who will annoy us. I'm reminded of this story of a passenger in an airplane where the people sitting in front of them had three kids. The father had a hard time controlling the three children—they were crying, they were fussing, and everybody was irritated. But the man behind decided to show kindness.
What did he do? He was tempted to say, "Can you not control your children?" But he didn’t say that. Instead, he said, "Having a tough day? Can I help you?" The father said, "Their mother just died, and we are on our way..."
You see, the moment he understood—the three children were crying because their mother just died—it completely changed his perspective. Instead of becoming harsh, he began to put himself in their shoes. And that's how you show kindness.
You know, when Jesus tells us, "Do unto others as you want them to do unto you," many times, we need to be kind. We need to think of others, put ourselves in their shoes.
The Bible tells us: Love is patient. Love is kind.
Can I tell you why? Because that's how God is. In Romans 2:4, it says:
"Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads you to repentance?"
The Bible describes God as follows: God is patient, and God is kind. And I look at myself and realize—I am the recipient of God's patience and God's love. And God is saying, "True love is for you and for me to be patient, to be kind to others."
The truth is this: Many people have been brought into the kingdom of God through the kindness, patience, and love of God's people—not because of theological arguments, not because of apologetics. And the truth is, there are more people who have turned away from Christ, from the church, because of the hardness, the poor examples of many Christians.
It is so crucial that we learn to be patient, we learn to be kind—because that's how we honor the Lord.
What love is not?
What Love Is Not: Eight Characteristics
Love is not jealous.
Love does not brag.
Love is not arrogant.
What does it mean "love is not jealous"? Jealousy, when applied to us, means you want something that others have and you don’t have it. It can also mean you feel bad because others have it and you don’t. Now, there’s a kind of jealousy that is good—it’s called godly jealousy. That kind of jealousy is for our protection—the jealousy of a husband or wife to safeguard the purity of each other. But the jealousy being discussed here has to do with selfishness.
For example, in Genesis 37:11, 19, the Bible tells us about Joseph—his brothers were jealous of him. They said to one another:
"Here comes this dreamer! Come now, let us kill him and throw him into one of the pits. We will say a wild beast devoured him. Then let us see what will become of his dreams."
In other words, jealousy and envy can lead to devastating consequences. Friends, jealousy is all about self-centeredness. This is one of those serious sins that people don’t realize.
- When somebody gets promoted, are you happy for them?
- If you see your spouse having a good time with their family, are you happy for them?
Love is not jealous. You are happy for others. The Bible says:
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep." (Romans 12:15)
Now, let me ask you—which one is harder? In the Philippine context, it’s harder for us to rejoice with those who rejoice. We don’t mind weeping with those who weep, but the Bible challenges us: Are you able to be happy when others are blessed?
Love does not brag. Love is not arrogant.
I’ll explain these two together.
- The word brag means you lift yourself up.
- The word arrogant means you puff yourself up—like inflating yourself.
What do I mean? You’ll notice many politicians—if they build a bridge or a parking shade, they put their name on it. But it’s the people’s money! Why do they do that? Because they want recognition.
But true followers of Jesus do not seek recognition. You do good things silently, without drawing attention. You don’t mind.
What’s the antidote?
Remember that everything we have, everything we’ve accomplished, is by the grace of God. So, we give glory to Him. Our accomplishments are because of Him.
Love does not act unbecomingly.
Love does not seek its own.
Love is not provoked.
Love does not take into account a wrong suffered.
What does this mean?
- "Does not act unbecomingly"
- The word unbecomingly comes from Greek roots meaning without proper form—not following the norm.
- There are behaviors we all know are respectful, but selfish people ignore them. They don’t care about politeness or respect.
- My wife always teaches our children: Moodiness is selfishness—because you’re only thinking about yourself.
- Imagine having dinner with the President of the Philippines—you’d behave with utmost respect. Love acts becomingly.
- "Does not seek its own"
- Grammatically, it means love always thinks of others’ benefit, not its own.
- I’m reminded of a father who divorced his wife and left the family. Before leaving, he kissed his son and said, "I love you." But did he really love his son? No—he loved himself more.
- True love is an unconditional commitment toward imperfect people—seeking their highest good, not ours.
- "Is not provoked"
- The word provoked means sharp irritation leading to an immediate reaction.
- My wife once told our son, "You’re making me angry!" He replied, "Mom, remember—no one can make you angry unless you choose to be angry."
- Love is not provoked. When you’re about to lose your temper--close your mouth.
- "Does not take into account a wrong suffered"
- This is an accounting term—some people keep a record of wrongs.
- The Bible says true love does not keep score.
- Example: Abraham Lincoln’s opponent, Stanton, insulted him, calling him "the original gorilla." Yet when Lincoln became president, he appointed Stanton as Secretary of War. His advisors were shocked, but Lincoln said, "I know he criticized me, but he’s the best man for the job."
- Because of Lincoln’s forgiveness, Stanton became a trusted friend and even praised him after his death.
- Do you keep track of wrongs?
- The Bible says: "If You, Lord, should mark iniquities, who could stand?" (Psalm 130:3)
- Just as God forgives us, we must forgive others (Hebrews 10:17).
Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth.
What does this mean?
- My father taught me: "Every person has good and bad sides. Accentuate the positive; minimize the negative."
- The Bible agrees—don’t broadcast others’ failures. Instead, focus on their good qualities.
- Example:
- David sinned (adultery, murder), yet God called him "a man after My own heart."
- Moses lost his temper, yet God said he was "faithful in all My house."
Instead, let’s rejoice in the truth.
This passage emphasizes that true love is selfless, patient, forgiving, and focused on others’ good—not our own pride or grievances. May we grow in this kind of love.
Don't give up on Love
What Will Love Always Do?The Bible tells us:
"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."
So far, how are you rating yourself?
- Love is patient.
- Love is kind.
- Love is not jealous, does not brag, doesn’t act unbecomingly.
Now, let’s look at what love will always do:
- Love Bears All Things
- The word "bear" comes from the Greek word meaning "to cover"—like a protective roof.
- 1 Peter 4:8 says: "Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins."
- If you love someone, it’s easier to overlook their mistakes. But if you dislike someone, you’ll find fault in everything they do.
- True love bears—it doesn’t turn molehills into mountains. It gives people leeway to make mistakes without crucifying them.
- How are you doing in this area? Do you quarrel over small things? Some people react to the slightest mistake with anger—but love covers.
- The word "bear" comes from the Greek word meaning "to cover"—like a protective roof.
- Love Believes All Things
- This means giving others the benefit of the doubt—trusting until proven otherwise.
- It’s not being gullible or naive, but choosing to believe the best about people.
- Example: Someone once spread false rumors about me—claiming I was involved in drugs and money scandals. A friend defended me passionately, saying, "Impossible!" When I heard about it, I clarified the truth: I’ve never been into drugs, and my finances are transparent.
- Love believes—it doesn’t jump to conclusions based on gossip.
- This means giving others the benefit of the doubt—trusting until proven otherwise.
- Love Hopes All Things
- Love never gives up. Why? Because it’s anchored in God’s power to change lives.
- Philippians 1:6: "He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
- Are you living with someone difficult? A spouse, child, or family member who seems hopeless? Don’t give up! I’ve seen God transform many lives.
- Your job is to love. God’s job is to change.
- Love never gives up. Why? Because it’s anchored in God’s power to change lives.
- Love Endures All Things
- The Greek word "hypomeno" means "to abide under pressure"—not with resignation, but with expectant perseverance.
- It’s not saying, "I can’t take it anymore" (Tagalog: "Ayoko na!"), but "I will wait with hope."
- Testimony: Pastor JP Masakayan’s Story
- Early in his marriage, JP was emotionally detached, and his wife, Ruchi, felt neglected. She left him after four years.
- Many advised JP to divorce, but Pastor Peter Tan-Chi challenged him: "If you remarry, you might be happy for 20 years—but you’ll have a problem with God."
- Meanwhile, Pastor Peter’s wife, Deonna, ministered to Ruchi, showing her God’s design for marriage.
- On December 31, 1999, Ruchi tearfully asked for forgiveness. JP felt God’s prompting: "This is your chance to destroy or build her up." He chose forgiveness.
- Today, they’ve been married 29 years. Ruchi is now a doctor and JP’s ministry partner.
- "Only God could take broken lives and restore them," JP says. "Love endures because God never lets go."
- Early in his marriage, JP was emotionally detached, and his wife, Ruchi, felt neglected. She left him after four years.
- The Greek word "hypomeno" means "to abide under pressure"—not with resignation, but with expectant perseverance.
- Love Never Fails
- Human love can fail—but God’s love never does.
- When we love His way, it has eternal impact.
- Human love can fail—but God’s love never does.
Final Challenge:
- Are you bearing, believing, hoping, and enduring in your relationships?
- Like JP, choose God’s love—the kind that never gives up.
Let’s honor God by loving His way.
This passage reminds us that true love is active, persevering, and God-dependent. May we grow in it daily.
The Secret to A Love that Last.
What does it mean that "True Love Never Fails"?
When the Bible says "Love never fails," it means:
- You don’t give up.
- You don’t fall away from faith.
- You don’t abandon hope.
1. Love Never Fails Because God’s Purpose Prevails
- "Love never fails" doesn’t mean you’ll always get what you want or that others will always change.
- It means God’s purpose—to transform you into Christ’s image—will be fulfilled (Romans 8:28-29).
- "All things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose... to be conformed to the image of His Son."
- "All things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose... to be conformed to the image of His Son."
- When you practice love, you align yourself with God’s eternal plan.
- Do you know how pearls are formed?
- A grain of sand (an irritation) gets inside an oyster.
- The oyster covers it with layers of nacre—transforming it into something beautiful and valuable.
- A grain of sand (an irritation) gets inside an oyster.
- The largest natural pearl in the world (75 pounds, worth $100 million) was found in Palawan, Philippines.
- For years, the owner kept it under his bed, unaware of its worth—until a fire revealed its true value.
- For years, the owner kept it under his bed, unaware of its worth—until a fire revealed its true value.
- Many of life’s "irritations" (difficult people, trials) are God’s tools to shape us.
- If we respond in love, He turns them into spiritual pearls—priceless growth in character.
- If we respond in love, He turns them into spiritual pearls—priceless growth in character.
- 1 Corinthians 13:13: "Now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love."
- In heaven, faith becomes sight (you won’t need faith anymore).
- Hope becomes reality (you won’t need hope anymore).
- But love continues forever—you’ll spend eternity growing in love for God and others.
- In heaven, faith becomes sight (you won’t need faith anymore).
- Earth is the training ground for heaven. The love we practice now prepares us for eternity.
- We can’t love like this on our own.
- Romans 5:5: "God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit."
- His love is a river—overflowing, unending, and not dependent on circumstances.
- His love is a river—overflowing, unending, and not dependent on circumstances.
- My wife and I have been married 47 years. I’ve seen couples married 50+ years.
- Their secret? Love that endures because it’s rooted in God’s love.
- Their secret? Love that endures because it’s rooted in God’s love.
- Love God first. You can’t truly love others until you’re filled with His love.
- Practice the 15 verbs of love (patience, kindness, forgiveness, etc.).
- Don’t give up on difficult people. God is working—even when you can’t see it.
May you experience—and overflow with--God’s unstoppable, unfailing love.
This passage reminds us that love is God’s masterpiece, transforming trials into treasures and preparing us for eternity. Let’s choose to love His way—today and always.
Love God even when we Fails
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Information from Website https://teachwithjoy.com/2014/03/two-become-one/
My parents are literally East meets West, a Chinese and an American. When they met one another in the Philippines, they were from two distinctly different cultures brought together by a common love for Jesus Christ and the desire to serve him. Now married for nearly 41 years, and still in love (more so than ever before), it is their identity in Christ — as one — that has kept them together.
While I was cleaning out old albums, I came across a published narrative of how God brought them together, and I was so blessed to read their story again. I’m hoping you will feel the same way…
“Whatever you ask in my name, that will I do that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it.” John 14:13-24
PETER (DAD):
As I meditated on this passage one morning in December 1971, I was confident that if I asked anything in the name of Jesus, he would do it. There was great peace in my heart as I prayed, “Lord, allow me to meet my future wife. I am tired of dating girls and wasting time.”
Met Deonna in January at the weekly Friday night meeting of Campus Crusade for Christ. She had arrived in the Philippines on November 21 as a member of the Crossroads, a musical team for Asia of the aforementioned Christian organization. At that time, I never imaged that she was the Lord’s answer to my prayer. There were two incidents, however, which prompted me to become better acquainted with her. The first occurred when my younger sister, Beth, went shopping with her. Beth commented afterwards, “she is so simple and wise in her shopping.”
The other happened a week after our encounter. The Crossroads and I were having dinner together. As we were sharing our experiences with the Lord, I noticed that Deonna had a deep comprehension of life. She showed great spiritual discernment in what she was saying. I talked with her again at the next Friday night meeting. That evening, I asked her for a date on Sunday afternoon.
Our first date was a unique experience for me. My original plan was to show her some interesting places in the greater Manila area and get-to-know her at the same time. However, a few days before Sunday, a pastor-friend invited me to speak in his church on the same afternoon that I was to be with Deonna. I accepted the invitation. Not being well-acquainted with Deonna, I didn’t know what she would think about my acceptance of the speaking engagement. I hoped she would be willing to minister with me. I waited until Sunday to tell her. When I did, I was delighted because she welcomed the idea. She remarked that it is good to have a balance between being together and ministering together. That Sunday afternoon, she helped me by sharing her testimony at the church I spoke at.
This was how our relationship began. It was the type of relationship I prayed I would have with a girl. I had spent time with other girls but none of them had expressed a willingness to serve the Lord the way Deonna did. I was encouraged by the fact that we were closer to the Lord and to each other when we parted that evening.
After our first date, we committed the future of our relationship to the Lord. Although we saw each other frequently between the months of February and August, we had to be separated for a period of three and a half months. Deonna toured with the Crossroads in Indonesia and the Southern Philippines in March and April; then in July, I went to the U.S. for Campus Crusade for Christ’s Explo’ 72 and Lay Staff Training.
With the possibility of marriage in mind, Deonna and I thought it would be wise for me to visit her family while in the U.S. During the second week of my trip to the U.S., I spent four days in Florida with them. I discussed with her father what the Lord had been showing us in regards to our relationship. I left her family with the assurance that her parents would welcome our marriage if it were the Lord’s will.
My love for Deonna grew during the rest of my time in the U.S. For the first time in my life, I began to realize the meaning of Agape Love – an unconditional, unselfish love. I discovered within myself a freedom to love her without the fear of losing her or of becoming jealous. Regardless of her response to me, I knew I would still love her. I only desired the best for her.
In August, the Lord finally confirmed that he had chosen Deonna to be my wife. He did this through many Bible verses and through the love which He had placed within me for her. Knowing that Deonna was to be my wife, I was eager to see her. As soon as my responsibilities would allow me, I began my trip home.
I had to stop in Germany to attend to some business affairs. Although I originally intended to spend a few months in Germany to complete my business there, I was able to do everything in a week. Then, I immediately flew to the Philippines with the intention of asking Deonna to marry me.
Wasting no time, I proposed to Deonna on Sunday, the 27th of August, which was just one day after I returned to Manila. I did not know what the Lord had revealed to her concerning our future. I only knew that I loved her and that the Lord had showed me that Deonna was to be my wife. Trusting His promises me, I had the courage to ask her to marry me. But when I asked her, she did not answer me immediately. After a moment of silence, she said, “Peter, please get my Bible out of the car. I want to share with you what the Lord showed me concerning our relationship.”
I never expected her to respond this way! Nevertheless, I brought her Bible and “patiently” waited for thirty minutes while she read the many Bible verses God had shown her. When she finally finished, I asked, “Deonna, what is your answer?” Again, she surprised me by saying, “Peter, let’s pray.” Not knowing what to expect next, I bowed my head. At the end of her prayer to the Lord, I heard her say, “Father, before you and all of heaven I say ‘yes’ to Peter. I will be his wife.”
I opened my eyes and looked at her. I never though that the woman I would marry would say “yes” to me through a prayer to our heavenly Father. Yet, Deonna had done it! I was overjoyed as I thought, “I am looking at my wife to be. She is God’s gift to me.” I remember my prayer in December, “Lord, let me meet my future wife.” God faithfully fulfilled His promise to me…” Whatever you ask in my name, that will I do…” My heart was full of joy, praise, and thanksgiving to God for giving me such a wonderful woman.
I can honestly say, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)
God is so good. He knows what is best for His children and when it is best to give it to us. Through this experience with Deonna, I have learned that “Faith” means to trust the Lord moment by moment, one step at a time.
DEONNA (MOM):
A week before leaving California for Asia, my mother entered the kitchen while I was cooking my lunch. “Deonna,” she said. “I am glad that you have chosen to obey the Lord by going to Asia to minster there as a member of the Crossroads.” Then I observed tears welling up in her eyes as she continued, “But honey, you are already 25. When will you get married?”
I was deeply touched by her motherly concern. However, I had already given this problem to Christ and left it for Him to solve. Because of this, I was able to encourage her by replying, “Mother, if there was only one man in the world but the Lord Jesus Christ wanted me to marry him, then Jesus would bring me to him.” Then unexpectedly I added, “Who knows, Mom, maybe I’ll marry an Asian? God might have a permanent ministry planned for me in Asia.” This last statement certainly didn’t comfort her. She burst into tears at the thought of me staying in Asia for life.
When I left Lost Angeles airport on November 14, 1971, I did not know that Jesus was actually taking me to meet a handsome Chinese man who would be my husband. Nor did I realize that I was leaving one way of life to eventually begin a new life with him in a foreign country. Unknowingly, Jesus had given me a glimpse of my future through my statement to my mom.
The Crossroads arrived in the Philippines on November 21. Manila had been chosen as our home base since the Asian Training Center for Campus Crusade for Christ (CCC) was located there. Three weeks after arriving we attended the CCC Leadership Training Institute. On the second day of the institute, the topic of marriage came up again when Becky, a newly married Filipino staff of CCC, shared with me that months before she met Ben, her husband, she had prayed for certain qualities to be in the man she married.
The results of Becky’s prayer inspired me to do the same. After the institute, I prayerfully made the list of qualities, which I wanted to be in the man I would marry. It was my desire that each quality would be pleasing to Lord. Let me share these qualities with you. I wanted:
In January, just one month after I had begun praying for my future husband, I met Peter. Our first meeting was very casual, and to be honest, very ordinary. We were at the weekly Friday night meeting of Campus Crusade for Christ. Approaching me with a friendly smile, he said, “Hi, I’m Peter.” I smiled and returned the greeting. I remember little of the rest of our one and a half minute conversation. But, I did take note of Peter and his personality. He appeared very friendly, sure of himself, and capable of leadership.
Later the following week, Peter invited the Crossroads to dinner. It was then that I learned he was in the textile business. The next Friday night at the Crusade meeting, he asked me to go sightseeing on Sunday afternoon. I accepted his invitation. However, our date did not turn out as I had expected. Since Peter had accepted a speaking engagement during our date, we ended Sunday afternoon ministering together in a small local church.
As I listened to him preach, I thought to myself, “Wouldn’t it be wonderful to minister together like this with my husband.” At that time, I did not realize that I would be ministering with Peter for the rest of my life. Standing before me was the man I would marry and for whom I had been praying. But, I didn’t know it.
After our first date, Peter and I began dating frequently. Each time we were with each other, we were drawn closer together. God also used the two of us, a blonde American lady and a dark-haired Chinese man, to bring many people to Christ. The more I was with Peter, the more I discovered that his qualities were identical to the qualities I had prayed to have in my husband.
Then in April, Peter told me that he believed the Lord was showing him that I was to be his wife. When he told me this, I became excited, but at the same time, I felt uneasy. To be married to a man with Peter’s qualities was in my prayer. Yet, to marry Peter meant marrying outside my own race. In order to make such a decision I had to know God’s attitude towards mixed marriages. I also had to be absolutely sure that it was God’s will for me to marry Peter. So, I replied, “Peter, I believe that a marriage relationship requires a mutual confirmation from the Lord that it is his will.” He agreed.
That night I returned home and wrote a list of practical questions to the Lord Jesus. I desired to know his perspective on mixed marriages, leaving my country, the future of our children, and the type of ministry Peter and I would have. I committed these questions to Him and expected Him to answer me from the Bible.
Finally, five months later on August 24 while I was returning by ship from the Southern Philippines, the Lord directed me to passages in the Bible which specifically answered all of my questions. Although I had many questions which He answered, I will only share with you His attitude towards races. In Galatians 3:26-28, He showed me that those of us who are in Christ are children of God. The earthly classifications of individuals by race and social status are replaced by a new classification for the children of God; we are one in Christ.
After he answered all my questions positively, I was confident that it was His will for Peter and me to be married. Bowing my head, I prayed, “Lord, thank you for showing me your will and for giving me to such a wonderful man as Peter.”
Two days after this revelation, Peter unexpectedly returned from his two months trip to the U.S. The day after his return, the 27th of August, he proposed to me. I did not expect him to ask me to marry him this soon after his return. I was excited but surprised.
I wanted to first share with him all the verses the Lord had given me in regards to our relationship before I answered him. After sharing the verses, I was still uneasy about the future. Even though I loved Peter, I realized that saying “yes” to him would change the entire course of my life. That was a difficult decision for me to make. However, God had clearly shown me that this was His perfect plan; that I should be Peter’s wife. I knew that I needed to pray in order to have the courage to make such a decision. I asked Peter to pray with me. I thanked the Lord for His plan for our lives, for Christ’s power to be obedient to His will, and most of all for Peter. While still praying, I said “yes” to the Lord and then “yes” to Peter.
THIS WAS PUBLISHED ON JULY 12, 1973.
Recently, my mom gave a shortened version of her testimony before our church and I want to add what she said:
My vows to Peter were consistent to the vow I had made to God. As Ruth had said to Naoimi in Ruth 1:16 “…Where you go I will go … Your people shall be my people and your God, my God.”
When I first arrived in Manila, the Lord had given me a promise of blessing which I did not really understand at that time from Mark 10:29-30. Jesus said, “Truly I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brother or sister or mother or father or children or farms, for my sake and for the gospel’s sake but that he will receive a hundred times as much now in the present age, houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and farms along with persecution; and in the age to come, eternal life.”
Peter and I have now been married for nearly 41 wonderful years and looking back I can see that the Lord has literally fulfilled these promises to me. He gave me a wonderful husband whom I love and respect even more then ever! And five children and in-law children who love and serve the Lord and thirteen, going on fifteen, amazing grandchildren! Of course, I also have many spiritual brothers and sisters whom I love who are also the fulfillment of God’s promise of blessing in my life as well. Truly it is the nature of God to bless us! And He has blessed me beyond what I could have ever imagined! All by His grace!
While I was cleaning out old albums, I came across a published narrative of how God brought them together, and I was so blessed to read their story again. I’m hoping you will feel the same way…
“Whatever you ask in my name, that will I do that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it.” John 14:13-24
PETER (DAD):
As I meditated on this passage one morning in December 1971, I was confident that if I asked anything in the name of Jesus, he would do it. There was great peace in my heart as I prayed, “Lord, allow me to meet my future wife. I am tired of dating girls and wasting time.”
Met Deonna in January at the weekly Friday night meeting of Campus Crusade for Christ. She had arrived in the Philippines on November 21 as a member of the Crossroads, a musical team for Asia of the aforementioned Christian organization. At that time, I never imaged that she was the Lord’s answer to my prayer. There were two incidents, however, which prompted me to become better acquainted with her. The first occurred when my younger sister, Beth, went shopping with her. Beth commented afterwards, “she is so simple and wise in her shopping.”
The other happened a week after our encounter. The Crossroads and I were having dinner together. As we were sharing our experiences with the Lord, I noticed that Deonna had a deep comprehension of life. She showed great spiritual discernment in what she was saying. I talked with her again at the next Friday night meeting. That evening, I asked her for a date on Sunday afternoon.
Our first date was a unique experience for me. My original plan was to show her some interesting places in the greater Manila area and get-to-know her at the same time. However, a few days before Sunday, a pastor-friend invited me to speak in his church on the same afternoon that I was to be with Deonna. I accepted the invitation. Not being well-acquainted with Deonna, I didn’t know what she would think about my acceptance of the speaking engagement. I hoped she would be willing to minister with me. I waited until Sunday to tell her. When I did, I was delighted because she welcomed the idea. She remarked that it is good to have a balance between being together and ministering together. That Sunday afternoon, she helped me by sharing her testimony at the church I spoke at.
This was how our relationship began. It was the type of relationship I prayed I would have with a girl. I had spent time with other girls but none of them had expressed a willingness to serve the Lord the way Deonna did. I was encouraged by the fact that we were closer to the Lord and to each other when we parted that evening.
After our first date, we committed the future of our relationship to the Lord. Although we saw each other frequently between the months of February and August, we had to be separated for a period of three and a half months. Deonna toured with the Crossroads in Indonesia and the Southern Philippines in March and April; then in July, I went to the U.S. for Campus Crusade for Christ’s Explo’ 72 and Lay Staff Training.
With the possibility of marriage in mind, Deonna and I thought it would be wise for me to visit her family while in the U.S. During the second week of my trip to the U.S., I spent four days in Florida with them. I discussed with her father what the Lord had been showing us in regards to our relationship. I left her family with the assurance that her parents would welcome our marriage if it were the Lord’s will.
My love for Deonna grew during the rest of my time in the U.S. For the first time in my life, I began to realize the meaning of Agape Love – an unconditional, unselfish love. I discovered within myself a freedom to love her without the fear of losing her or of becoming jealous. Regardless of her response to me, I knew I would still love her. I only desired the best for her.
In August, the Lord finally confirmed that he had chosen Deonna to be my wife. He did this through many Bible verses and through the love which He had placed within me for her. Knowing that Deonna was to be my wife, I was eager to see her. As soon as my responsibilities would allow me, I began my trip home.
I had to stop in Germany to attend to some business affairs. Although I originally intended to spend a few months in Germany to complete my business there, I was able to do everything in a week. Then, I immediately flew to the Philippines with the intention of asking Deonna to marry me.
Wasting no time, I proposed to Deonna on Sunday, the 27th of August, which was just one day after I returned to Manila. I did not know what the Lord had revealed to her concerning our future. I only knew that I loved her and that the Lord had showed me that Deonna was to be my wife. Trusting His promises me, I had the courage to ask her to marry me. But when I asked her, she did not answer me immediately. After a moment of silence, she said, “Peter, please get my Bible out of the car. I want to share with you what the Lord showed me concerning our relationship.”
I never expected her to respond this way! Nevertheless, I brought her Bible and “patiently” waited for thirty minutes while she read the many Bible verses God had shown her. When she finally finished, I asked, “Deonna, what is your answer?” Again, she surprised me by saying, “Peter, let’s pray.” Not knowing what to expect next, I bowed my head. At the end of her prayer to the Lord, I heard her say, “Father, before you and all of heaven I say ‘yes’ to Peter. I will be his wife.”
I opened my eyes and looked at her. I never though that the woman I would marry would say “yes” to me through a prayer to our heavenly Father. Yet, Deonna had done it! I was overjoyed as I thought, “I am looking at my wife to be. She is God’s gift to me.” I remember my prayer in December, “Lord, let me meet my future wife.” God faithfully fulfilled His promise to me…” Whatever you ask in my name, that will I do…” My heart was full of joy, praise, and thanksgiving to God for giving me such a wonderful woman.
I can honestly say, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)
God is so good. He knows what is best for His children and when it is best to give it to us. Through this experience with Deonna, I have learned that “Faith” means to trust the Lord moment by moment, one step at a time.
DEONNA (MOM):
A week before leaving California for Asia, my mother entered the kitchen while I was cooking my lunch. “Deonna,” she said. “I am glad that you have chosen to obey the Lord by going to Asia to minster there as a member of the Crossroads.” Then I observed tears welling up in her eyes as she continued, “But honey, you are already 25. When will you get married?”
I was deeply touched by her motherly concern. However, I had already given this problem to Christ and left it for Him to solve. Because of this, I was able to encourage her by replying, “Mother, if there was only one man in the world but the Lord Jesus Christ wanted me to marry him, then Jesus would bring me to him.” Then unexpectedly I added, “Who knows, Mom, maybe I’ll marry an Asian? God might have a permanent ministry planned for me in Asia.” This last statement certainly didn’t comfort her. She burst into tears at the thought of me staying in Asia for life.
When I left Lost Angeles airport on November 14, 1971, I did not know that Jesus was actually taking me to meet a handsome Chinese man who would be my husband. Nor did I realize that I was leaving one way of life to eventually begin a new life with him in a foreign country. Unknowingly, Jesus had given me a glimpse of my future through my statement to my mom.
The Crossroads arrived in the Philippines on November 21. Manila had been chosen as our home base since the Asian Training Center for Campus Crusade for Christ (CCC) was located there. Three weeks after arriving we attended the CCC Leadership Training Institute. On the second day of the institute, the topic of marriage came up again when Becky, a newly married Filipino staff of CCC, shared with me that months before she met Ben, her husband, she had prayed for certain qualities to be in the man she married.
The results of Becky’s prayer inspired me to do the same. After the institute, I prayerfully made the list of qualities, which I wanted to be in the man I would marry. It was my desire that each quality would be pleasing to Lord. Let me share these qualities with you. I wanted:
- A true Christian – a man who has trusted Christ to forgive his sins and because of this, has Christ’s Spirit living in him.
- One who loves God more than he loves me.
- A man who allows Christ’s Spirit to control him and to guide his life.
- One chosen by the Lord to serve Him.
- One who understands that the Lord’s role for a Christian husband is to be the head of his home – to lead his wife through his love and not by force.
- A man with leadership ability.
- A man who is sensitive and understanding with others and wise in human relationships.
- One who is intelligent, has achieved the same level of education as I have, has a positive attitude toward life, and one who enjoys sports like swimming, (something that we can do together).
In January, just one month after I had begun praying for my future husband, I met Peter. Our first meeting was very casual, and to be honest, very ordinary. We were at the weekly Friday night meeting of Campus Crusade for Christ. Approaching me with a friendly smile, he said, “Hi, I’m Peter.” I smiled and returned the greeting. I remember little of the rest of our one and a half minute conversation. But, I did take note of Peter and his personality. He appeared very friendly, sure of himself, and capable of leadership.
Later the following week, Peter invited the Crossroads to dinner. It was then that I learned he was in the textile business. The next Friday night at the Crusade meeting, he asked me to go sightseeing on Sunday afternoon. I accepted his invitation. However, our date did not turn out as I had expected. Since Peter had accepted a speaking engagement during our date, we ended Sunday afternoon ministering together in a small local church.
As I listened to him preach, I thought to myself, “Wouldn’t it be wonderful to minister together like this with my husband.” At that time, I did not realize that I would be ministering with Peter for the rest of my life. Standing before me was the man I would marry and for whom I had been praying. But, I didn’t know it.
After our first date, Peter and I began dating frequently. Each time we were with each other, we were drawn closer together. God also used the two of us, a blonde American lady and a dark-haired Chinese man, to bring many people to Christ. The more I was with Peter, the more I discovered that his qualities were identical to the qualities I had prayed to have in my husband.
Then in April, Peter told me that he believed the Lord was showing him that I was to be his wife. When he told me this, I became excited, but at the same time, I felt uneasy. To be married to a man with Peter’s qualities was in my prayer. Yet, to marry Peter meant marrying outside my own race. In order to make such a decision I had to know God’s attitude towards mixed marriages. I also had to be absolutely sure that it was God’s will for me to marry Peter. So, I replied, “Peter, I believe that a marriage relationship requires a mutual confirmation from the Lord that it is his will.” He agreed.
That night I returned home and wrote a list of practical questions to the Lord Jesus. I desired to know his perspective on mixed marriages, leaving my country, the future of our children, and the type of ministry Peter and I would have. I committed these questions to Him and expected Him to answer me from the Bible.
Finally, five months later on August 24 while I was returning by ship from the Southern Philippines, the Lord directed me to passages in the Bible which specifically answered all of my questions. Although I had many questions which He answered, I will only share with you His attitude towards races. In Galatians 3:26-28, He showed me that those of us who are in Christ are children of God. The earthly classifications of individuals by race and social status are replaced by a new classification for the children of God; we are one in Christ.
After he answered all my questions positively, I was confident that it was His will for Peter and me to be married. Bowing my head, I prayed, “Lord, thank you for showing me your will and for giving me to such a wonderful man as Peter.”
Two days after this revelation, Peter unexpectedly returned from his two months trip to the U.S. The day after his return, the 27th of August, he proposed to me. I did not expect him to ask me to marry him this soon after his return. I was excited but surprised.
I wanted to first share with him all the verses the Lord had given me in regards to our relationship before I answered him. After sharing the verses, I was still uneasy about the future. Even though I loved Peter, I realized that saying “yes” to him would change the entire course of my life. That was a difficult decision for me to make. However, God had clearly shown me that this was His perfect plan; that I should be Peter’s wife. I knew that I needed to pray in order to have the courage to make such a decision. I asked Peter to pray with me. I thanked the Lord for His plan for our lives, for Christ’s power to be obedient to His will, and most of all for Peter. While still praying, I said “yes” to the Lord and then “yes” to Peter.
THIS WAS PUBLISHED ON JULY 12, 1973.
Recently, my mom gave a shortened version of her testimony before our church and I want to add what she said:
My vows to Peter were consistent to the vow I had made to God. As Ruth had said to Naoimi in Ruth 1:16 “…Where you go I will go … Your people shall be my people and your God, my God.”
When I first arrived in Manila, the Lord had given me a promise of blessing which I did not really understand at that time from Mark 10:29-30. Jesus said, “Truly I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brother or sister or mother or father or children or farms, for my sake and for the gospel’s sake but that he will receive a hundred times as much now in the present age, houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and farms along with persecution; and in the age to come, eternal life.”
Peter and I have now been married for nearly 41 wonderful years and looking back I can see that the Lord has literally fulfilled these promises to me. He gave me a wonderful husband whom I love and respect even more then ever! And five children and in-law children who love and serve the Lord and thirteen, going on fifteen, amazing grandchildren! Of course, I also have many spiritual brothers and sisters whom I love who are also the fulfillment of God’s promise of blessing in my life as well. Truly it is the nature of God to bless us! And He has blessed me beyond what I could have ever imagined! All by His grace!
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